It's DATES! DATES for all! (Yes that includes Derek and I, but you don't get to hear about THAT today!)
|From Feb 2011|
So, because we are choosing to home-school, there are of course trade-offs. One thing I know I don't get that other moms do is time with one kid gone. We are basically all together all the time. This is the way we want it. It's part of why we are choosing home-based education.
HOWEVER, that does not negate the importance of one-on-one time with our children. My mom pointed it out to me a long time ago; how important that one-on-one time is, and we are striving to make time for each child with a parent; just them.
Derek's Fridays are light on the "work" side of things, so we've designated Friday as "date" day. Derek takes one, then I take another. (We're not including Ezra and Oliver in this date time yet, but we will as they grow. Oliver is my constant shadow and spends more time me just by default, so we're not stressed about him yet.)
It's an hour or two, as long as I can get away from a boob-monster-baby. It's ice cream or treats and whatever else they want to do to fill the time. Two Fridays ago, poor Spencer couldn't decide between ice cream or cupcakes. So we got both.
I want my children to know that they can talk to me about anything at all, ever. If I'm distracted (frequently) with other things, sometimes I don't hear what they are really saying. ESPECIALLY because they are small and often make absolutely zero sense the first time I hear something.
Dates are times for no distractions. Just me (or Derek) and my boy of the week. Tomorrow it's Daddy and Spencer and then Henry and Mommy. I'm excited to see what he comes up with. Maybe the book store! Maybe the ice cream shop, who cares! It's fun. :)